13.7.09
I lost my blogging momentum earlier this year.
I thought I will never gain it back again.
But, after months of hiatus...
I'm back!
mingfoong at 8:26 PM
(0) comments9.2.09
Received this email earlier and I really like this email so so much, and I've decided to post it up here for sharing neh. ^____________^
被狗吠的人，不一定是賊；
留長鬍子，也不一定是藝術家。
但有了「 偏 」見，就會把「人 」看「 扁」了 ?
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每星期五晚上，小吳都開車送太太到火車站搭車，去探生病的媽媽。
十分鐘後，小吳妹妹所乘的火車就到站。
他接她回家幫忙他們料理家務。
每逢星期日整個程序正好相反。
小吳妹妹的火車開出十分鐘後，他太太才到。
有一晚，他的妹妹剛走，小吳正等著接太太的車，一個站務員慢慢走過來。
他笑容詭異地說 :「先生，你真有辦法。難道你不怕有一天會被她們逮到嗎 ? 」
(((((((( 月暈效應))))))))
和別人相處時，我們都慣於 先入為主 的眼睛，
將別人放進一個「 框框 」裡，
再用這個框框解釋此人的角色與行為他是好人、他是壞人，
他好像有外遇、她很愛佔小便宜 ........
我們甚至把想法投射到對方身上，
以致經常偏離事實真相。
也許你也聽過這則故事 ..
有兩個女人，坐在同一張桌子喝飲料。
其中一個，把雨傘靠在桌邊，
另一個在喝完飲料時，迷迷糊糊的，順手拿起雨傘就走。
雨傘的主人大聲叫說 :「喂 ! 妳拿了我的雨傘。」
前面那個女人一臉尷尬，紅著臉向對方道歉，
說是忘了自已沒帶傘，一時誤拿。
這件事，讓她想起需要買把雨傘，順便也買一把給孩子，於是她便去買了兩把。
回家的路上，她正巧又跟那位之前被她誤拿雨傘的女人坐在同一輛公車上。
那女人注視著那兩把雨傘，說 :「我看妳今天的成績還不錯嘛 ! 」
人們在判斷別人時常有一種傾向，
就是把人概分為「 好的 」或「不好的 」兩部分。
當一個人留給人的印象是「 好的 」時，
人們就會把他的言行舉止用「 好的 」角度去解釋，
反之， 如果一個人被歸於「 不好的 」的印象時，
那麼，一切「 不好的 」看法都會加在他的身上。
這種現象稱之為「 月暈效應 」。
意即當人們看到月亮的同時，
周邊的光環也會被注意到當一個人的「 印象確立 」之後，
人們就會自動「 印象概推 」（Halo Effect ）將第一印象的認知與對方的言行聯想在一起。
「成見」能有多荒謬？
有一名年輕猶太人和老猶太人坐在同一列火車上。
年輕猶太人問老猶太人說：「 先生，請問現在幾點了？ 」
老猶太人卻默不作聲。
「 對不起! 先生，請問現在幾點了？ 」
老猶太人還是不答
「 先生很抱歉打擾您了！但是我真的想要知道現在是幾點鐘。你為什麼不回答我呢？」
老猶太人答道：
「 孩子，下一站就是最後一站了。而我一點都不認識你這個陌生人。
如果我現在回答你，依照猶太人的傳統，我就必須邀請你到我家坐。
你長得很英俊，而我有一個很漂亮的女兒。
你們倆一定會愛上對方，然後你就會把我的女兒娶走。
你告訴我，我為什麼要一個連手錶都買不起的女婿呢？ 」
幾乎每一分鐘、每一件事，我們都依憑著過去所得的知識、經驗在作判斷。
比方，我們常聽說（或認為）：「 生意人都很狡猾 」、
「 女人都是爛駕駛」、
「 男人都很不衛生」、
「 猶太人都很吝嗇」、
「 美國人都很浪漫」 ....... 等等。
此後我們心中就會建立一套刻板的印象，
並用這個「 成見 」去解釋或評斷周遭的人事物。
一對男女若看到一個男人拿把花走在街上，
女的可能會想：「 哦 !他真體貼、好浪漫。 」
男的也許會認為，「 天啊 !我看這傢伙完了 」
有一則故事，大意是這樣的：
有一位先生初到美國不久，某個早上到公園散步，
看到一些白人坐在草坪上聊天、曬太陽，
他心想 : 「美國人生活真是悠閒，有錢又懂得享受生活。」
走了不久，又看到有幾個黑人也悠閒地坐在草坪的另一邊，
這位先生不禁想到，
「唉 !黑人失業的問題還真是嚴重，這些人大概都在領社會救濟金過生活。」
艾斯曾有這麼一段妙喻，
當你暗夜走在街上，看見某扇窗亮了一盞燈。
也許有人會說 :「這一定是母親為還沒有回家的子女在禱告」
也有人會說 :「老天，一定有人在偷情。」
哈茲立特有句話 :「 偏見是無知的孩子。 」
說得一點都不錯，
「 人」「 扁 」為偏 ，
人一旦有了偏見，
就會把「 人 」看「扁 」、看「 偏」了。
大多數的人並不了解你，
你也不完全了解這些人，
既然如此，
我們就不該輕易地去論斷他人，
當然也不必在意別人的論斷。
因為，
每個人都可能扣錯第一顆釦子 ，
不是嗎？
静思语 :
脾气 嘴巴不好
心地再好也不算是好人
mingfoong at 12:18 PM
(0) comments12.12.08
Just checked the web to confirm my timetable for the next coming semester. All subject were registered, and I just found out I actually have no morning classes the next semester. XD
Meaning no more aunty-looking mingfoong will be seen around the faculty.
Yea, I was always found M.I.A.(Missing in Action) for morning classes. Even if I'm not M.I.A, you will see me swinging around liKE a zombie during lectere. (No, Jason don't shoot me, this is not a LAN game) Getting more laid back the last semester. So, I'm really glad there is no morning classes. Hopefully they will not change the timetable. *Praying hard*
Shopping with Suzz and Ron make mefell jolly. *doing the kaku salsa dance move*
I missed the form 6 times when we used to hang out for movies and shopping and for meals. :'(
Form 6 gathering dinner was yesterday.
Thanks for for those whom actually give face and attend the dinner. ^______^
Diiner was held ar Tram Car Cafe in Three Two Square, which is formerly know as the Cable Car Restaurant last time. Been loking high and low for the Cable Car since it closed down years ago. Thanks to Suzz who found the place yo! Wasn't really a big place but is very comfortable, and no one would stare at you as if we're bunch of jackuns that crawled out from the Taman Negara.
Agreed with Jason : Deciding on a venue is a pain in the arse.
15 of us turn out, and some of them was first time meeting up again after we finished STPM. XD So we shall be doing it again next year. All not the classmates from the 2 Biology class came, but at least, we're taking the effort to throw one.
Have small talk here and there, and busy catching up with their life in university. Alright, I'm just being ke-poh. XD Espeacially when Ronald blushed when we're joking over some issue, it looked like he's hanging 2 cooked shrimp at his ears from far. Shall attempt this again when I see him next time.
I want more holidays. *screams*
mingfoong at 2:36 PM
(0) comments7.12.08
People asked: Why you seldom blog when you're after exam. You look so free wert.
I blog too during normal days, just that sometimes I don't publish all of them. Get it clear now? ^________________^
It's been a really pleasure and slow holiday I had.
Sleep. Eat Shit.
That's my standard answer when friends in uni ask how have I been these days.
*grin*
Been reading a lot since my holidays started. I got myself a total of 6 novel fromt eh bookfair held in The Mines earlier. Been craving for the series of book since early this year, since I only managed to grab 2 out of the first series that time. That definitely burned a bloody big hole on my pocket, and not to mention carrying the heavy books back to uni from there. But anyway, on the way to finished the whole 6 of them soon.
Finger is itching for a bang bang session.
mingfoong at 9:42 PM
(0) comments1.12.08
Day after day.
I'm back from Melaka. XD Still in one piece although I'm literally dead after the camp/trip in Melaka. It was no doubt a freaking exhausted one, but I would say it will definitely brings back good memory about myself, Mandarin class, and Melaka.
Somehow couldn't sit still for long after the break. Thinks there is better way to spend my days. :)
Just a quick update for now. XD
I'm living well and eating right.
Till then, take care and have a nice day.
mingfoong at 6:57 PM
(2) comments13.11.08
Whee, one fine day was wasted on cleaning up room, and watching korea drama which I just finished downloaded a few days ago.
So not productive. >(
Nyaha, guess everyone know mingfoong blog a lot during finals' period. XD
Reason: mingfoong need to release stress.
Excuse: mingfoong is just being lazy.
Shouldn't study food microbiology after you finished your meal or craving for food.
It just make me sick and feel like throwing up after seeing the interesting pictures printed in the expensive textbook.
Stomach feeling crappy after reading up about the viruses' and parasites' eggs and larvae will do after it attached to human intestine. *urgh, sick-nya sick-nya*
So, I'm here taking a break!
I started regretting for getting myself an original textbook.
Shall do some good deeds by not posting up the pictures here, yes no?
Have a nice day and wish me having a productive day morrow before food microbiology paper.
mingfoong at 3:19 AM
(0) comments11.11.08
Lesson learned the hard way.
Had one major paper this afternoon.
I FORGOT to bring my calculator to exam today.
Dumb. I know.
Freak out when I settled down and started filling in the attendance form.
Really. Experienced this once before during my mid semester, but that paper only require simple math.
But is different this time. This is one of my major paper, Food Analysis. It involve a lot of calculation that only calculator will do the wonder of math.
And I fucking forgot to bring my calculator.
I was so depressed at the starting of the paper. :(
For the first time I sat for my exam paper while trying to hold back my tears. *sobs*
70% f the paper involve calculation, and I couldn't get help from anyone.
This is so fucked up. I think.
Lesson learned the hard way, that's the only thing I thought of during the paper.
The next time I should be checking all the things I need for exam before I leave for exam.
For those who read this, I really hope you'll be doing this too after you see this.
A living example is here.
*sobs*
Thank god one of the course mate of mine passed up the paper earlier.
I raised up my hand to ask permission from the examiner to borrow the calculator from him.
Praised lord he agreed.
Tried my best to finished up the remaining paper with calculation.
With my luck and some active brain cell, although I couldn't finished the paper, but most of them are done.
A very good experience, I shall say.
*6 down, 3 more to go*
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mingfoong at 5:09 PM
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